Be Able 1
COPING IDEAS TO HELP RUN THE HOME FOR WOMEN IN THE WORKFORCE
Lorraine says, "They are inexpensive books with ideas that work, in easy English, for ordinary people like me."
Contents and a sample page.
Be Able 1
COPING IDEAS TO HELP RUN THE HOME FOR WOMEN IN THE WORKFORCE
Lorraine says, "They are inexpensive books with ideas that work, in easy English, for ordinary people like me."
Contents and a sample page.
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About Me and What I Did Changes in Women’s Health Your Role Why Go out Into the Workforce? Plan Ahead My Short Term Goals My Long Term Goals Single Mothers Working from Home Don’t Forget Your Diet Exercise Get the Family on Your Side Use Family Members Networks My Plans for Now Motivating Members of the Family Delegate Train Children to be Responsible for Their Own Behaviour Delete Family Rules Working From Home Differences of Opinion Good Consequences Making Up Rules The Use of Television A Warning Rules for My Household Consequences, Good, Bad Employ a Cleaner Time Management Sharing Experiences Shopping On Line Shopping Dress Your Washing Facilities The Dishes Your Own Self Esteem Motivating Yourself Food Priorities for Going to Work Where Do You Live? Care For Kids Transport |
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More About Money Credit Cards Impulse Buying Be Flexible Pocket Money For Children Basic Pocket Money Write the Allowances in the Budget Your Philosophy Difficult People Assertiveness Current Work Situations Forgive Keep Healthy Immunisation Take Time to Look Good Solving Problems Be Organised Family Life Be a Good Example to Your Children Women’s Work Be Generous Women Have Always Worked Preparing Yourself for Work How to Study Your Job Interview Good Manners Children of Career Women Give Children Time to Dream The Children’s Rooms Adjustments A Good Attitude Be a Powerful Person A Special Checklist Summary Questions to Discuss Ideas That You Can Use Put Downs Advice From Friends Behaviours Explained To be Assertive What Do I Mean by an "I" Statement? The Assertive Statement Assertive, Passive or Aggressive Answers Problem Solving |
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(Page 11)Train Children to be Responsible for Their Own Behaviour.
If your child has behaved badly discuss it with him and ask him what he thinks he may do about it next time. Train him to formulate a plan of action for himself to stay out of trouble.
You may find that you do not worry unnecessarily about your children when you have a job. This will be better for you and them. Sometimes mothers with more time worry about the children too much. They can sometimes become too emotionally involved getting into arguments at school and in the neighbourhood. Their offspring can become very manipulative. This does not happen as much when the children are trained to solve problems themselves and when they learn to be responsible for their own behaviour. You should never the less show interest but certainly don’t become over protective. A child needs to go through the consequences of his behaviour early before the consequences become too great.
Have good communication with the school so that you can support your child’s learning because you know what is going on. Ring the teacher. Use the diary. If a child chooses to be a behaviour problem at school teach him the ‘Stop, Think, Choose another behaviour that gets a better consequence, then Act,’ method of controlling his actions. You may need also to teach him some alternative behaviours to choose from. You may even need to role-play the alternatives. If you wish to learn more, please read my book, ‘Be Able! Coping Ideas for Good Discipline in the Home, Sunday School and Classroom. The Behaviour Management Card is on Page 29. The useful ‘tick chart’ is on pages 11 and 12.
Delete
Delete from your activities most things that waste time and that are unnecessary. Be smart here. I kept shopping but gave up sewing and fancy cooking. I never mended socks. I still loved reading but did less of it. I did less ironing by buying more drip dry easy care clothing. Later I paid for it to be done. Some cleaning was also done by another person for a little wage.
Family Rules
For any group to function well a few basic rules need to be kept. There should also be a few consequences for not keeping the rules.
When my children were of school age we had about six rules:
1. cooperate quickly.
2. keep your room tidy.
3. care for property and people.
4. do your homework quickly.
5. be clean.
6. we speak nicely to each other.
On the way out in the morning I would line the children up and say the checklist:
"toilet, hands, face, teeth, hair, lunch, homework."
If all answers were "yes" we would set out.